Make a compromise, Surrender and Release
The state of unhappiness and suffering are often the results when we are afraid to let go of an unhealthy situation. Holding on to something which is only making us feel unhappy drains us in so many ways and we become weak, dependent and fearful which may extend into self pity and sorrow.
Our own truths are most likely to occur when we are feeling deeply uncomfortable, unhappy or unfulfilled. For in these moments we are so compelled by our discomfort that we are likely to step out of our unhappy situation and start searching for different ways or deeper meanings.
It seems how we feel when we hear the words surrender and release affects us immensley during our struggle and often makes all the difference. For instance, if an individual believes surrender to mean the action of resignation and the acceptance of despair, they are more likely to remain longer in their unhappy situation rather than an individual who believes surrender to mean capitulation which is the act of surrendering under our own agreed conditions. In other words - to make a compromise with yourself.
We can choose to decide upon capitulation of our unhappy situation in favour of the opportunity to give ourself a fresh start and welcome new beginnings. As we willingly release and begin the process which liberates us from the unhappy situation alas allowing it to begin to heal, we may find we gain the necessary clarity which was not apparent to us before. In having gained clarity individuals often regain their own self determination and strength.
The important thing is to be able to let go of what we are for what we could become.
Being able to surrender and release is accepting being able to choose better for us. If we are able to hold on then we are able to let go. It can take a lot of courage to let go and trust in the decision to do so but It may also be one of the most valuable decisions we can ever make.
How we spend our days is of course how we spend our lives and life can be so assembled that a situation or an event does not match the expectation. Too many of us worry deeply about having enough security instead of having enough opportunity. We seem to be more concerned about making changes rather than being unhappy.
“happiness is not a destination in which you will arrive at in a hurry, it is your journey there” - axiom
Whenever we decide to free ourselves of a negative situation we are consciously making the choice toward something more satisfying for us even if we can’t see the outcome. We are trusting in the process of our life in so many positive and loving ways. If we could see the miracle in letting go our whole life would change.
© 2005 by Biljana
