A Genuine Commitment

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Author: Biljana

There is an abundant amount written about soul mates and true love with more advice about how to meet that special one and many different ideas about how to make the relationship or marriage work, how to re-ignite the passion and keep your lover interested.

From the information available I have discovered commitment is how to use a variety of techniques and provoke the interest of our lover till death do us part. It is suggested we remain in love through the thick and thin of it, no matter what may come. Most marriage vows enforce this belief especially if we are married in a church. However, unfortunately for the great majority we cannot live up to this. It offers no reasonable alternative and if we ever began to feel unhappy or unsatisfied in our relationship we would have a lot to reckon with.

Everything begins with ourselves. We can discover how we feel about love when we can understand our own commitment to ourselves. The heart yearns for a deeper love. We desire an equal, a partner with similar interests and values. Perhaps a true spiritual companion with whom we can share and grow with and enjoy a gift of divine love, filled with exploration without the suffering, hardships or uncertainties.

The world is filled with people and we think, “Surely there must be someone special for me?”

Imagine if you knew you would meet them soon. How would you feel? Perhaps you may feel relieved, excited, overwhelmed or anxious because you know that without a doubt you would love them till death do us part. If you would feel this way, perhaps you are not ready for this love you desire however, you are ready to understand your desire.

How committed are we to ourself? How well do we know our own needs? How do we really feel about what it means to offer all that we are?

Our commitment to another is expressed in our commitment to ourself and our own path. Making the choice to be present to us is our deepest commitment. To surrender our own way to doing things and not having to feel threatened or having the need to run and hide. Very few of us allow ourselves to be in a situation which does not have at least a little exit where we can get out, if we feel we have to.

To offer all that we are requires us to want to discover all that we are. Being genuine. To known what that is. Most people seek love because the body needs to be held and to hold, to feel and be felt. None of these needs are to be denied or repressed however, every time you are able to go beyond the body's superficial desires for love, you are bringing your body home and moving toward the integration and unity of all that you are. Discovering all the barriers within yourself that you have built up against your body's deeper need for genuine love.

What a blessing when two souls can say to each other, “I want to spend my life wondering through all the wonders of you, of me, of us. You are my special one. The one I want, my lover, my beloved. I will devote myself to you, to us. I close the doors to any others. I accept you with all your imperfections, with all your beauty, with all your wonder and strength.” Making a long-term commitment to another is making a long-term commitment to us. It is something which we dedicate ourselves too. You have walked the path and now you have been given a gift of someone to journey beside you.

"Love does not consist of gazing at each other but in looking onward in the same direction" - axiom

What would it be like to let go of all the hiding places we use to escape and be there wholeheartedly. Open our heart completely and not indulge in our security of holding back. It will soften us so that we do not deceive ourselves. Through loving each other consciously and wholeheartedly we are free to grow without suffering and enjoy the unfolding of our sacred union. When we are consciously tuned in to the moment love expands to a heightened state of awareness.