Self Acceptance

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Author: Biljana

It's no secret that most of us are too hard on ourselves. The great majority of us are constantly worried and concerned about whether we are good enough and we spend a lot of money on fashion, accessories and expensive hairstyles. At some time in our life, perhaps during our adolescent years we adopted superficial ideals and expectations of ourselves and each other. For instance, what is attractive and what is not, how to dress, how to behave and how to spend our money.

One of the strongest influencing factors in all areas of our lives is advertising and the media. Unfortunately these are often unrealistic and rather a delusion, making a lot of people feel incompetent and have the need to compare each other. Most of us naturally reach a time in our maturing lives to recognise it and release most of the delusions although this is not always the case of having self acceptance. Most of us believe we will feel happy and content about ourselves once our life is problem free but there is a strong possibility we could be waiting our whole life through and it may not happen at all.

Our life challenges will lessen and dissipate when we are consciously working towards this. Although we may enjoy having high standards it is important to view ourselves through loving and accepting eyes. Self acceptance will come from a realistic, healthy and positive mind-set without worrying about whether we fit in or are going to be accepted but knowing that we already are, leaving no room for negative thoughts or actions which delude our own self acceptance and natural serenity.

Being able to have self acceptance is having the ability to love, approve and appreciate ourselves unconditionally. Feeling accepted and appreciated for who and what we are is our natural state of being. With allowing ourselves the opportunity we may find we let go of certain things in our lives which simply don't support this.

No matter what we have done in our past there is nothing we could have done which is worthy of us berating ourselves. We can let go of our negative self-critical judgments and enjoy being ourselves. We may find that we develop healthier lifestyles, happier home and work relationships as a result. To live content and seek your elegance rather than somebody else's luxury and devour your individual refinement rather than follow the ever-changing fashion trends. To feel and be worthy.

Just for today, If you don't feel like spending your precious hour before work by fighting with your hairstyle, don't. Sleep in an extra deserving while, take a longer shower and prepare a nicer breakfast, save your loose change. Most people can spend up to ten dollars on a take away breakfast every morning. In one week that is enough to get yourself a massage!

"Work like you don't need the money, love like you've never been hurt, and dance like no one is watching!" - axiom

We know in our hearts that we are already good enough. It was never the case that we were not. There are many more important values than how we dress or what we buy. We are perfect just the way we are and every part of us is wonderful. We are deserving of feeling secure about ourselves. Listen and hear the echoes of your Higher Self with an open heart, grow freely and allow your spiritual self to learn through the common everyday.